Wednesday, January 1, 2014
Advice for the New Year: Dance With Your Baby
As an older person when I talk to new moms about some of the ways I've discovered to exercise at home they often give me a look that says "fine for you, but that's not what I call exercise".
My answer to that is: NEVER UNDERESTIMATE THE BENEFITS OF LIGHT EXERCISE!!!
So when you're feeling stuck in the house with a small baby, why not make "walking the floor" more beneficial for you and more stimulating for your baby by putting on some music and throwing in some dance steps and variations on walking? Walk side to side, march, go backwards and forwards, throw in a cha-cha, a little salsa or whatever you enjoy.
What if your baby is crying? Well, babies cry for all sorts of reasons; providing your baby is fed and dry, you will most likely be walking the floor in your effort to soothe your baby. Why not add some movement and music? Maybe baby will end up being rocked to sleep, or be distracted by the sound of the music, the rhythm of the movement, or the changing sights as you move around the room. If your baby is very calm, he or she may be happy to just watch you; a dancing mom is definitely more interesting to watch than a mom who is doing paperwork, watching TV, or otherwise sitting still.
What if you also have a toddler at home? What better way to spend time with your infant and your toddler than moving to music. The idea is that your enthusiasm will be infectious, inviting your toddler to join in. The main thing is that you will be getting exercise: using muscles, stimulating the right hormones, burning calories, increasing your heart-rate, and it just might lift your spirits.
So instead of waiting around for others to grant you the opportunity to go to the gym or out for a run, add a little light aerobic workout to your daily routine. It will be good for you and good for your children. Be creative, think outside the box and have a little fun.
HAPPY NEW YEAR
Friday, May 24, 2013
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder in Postpartum Women
Friday, December 14, 2012
HOLIDAY ADVICE: JUST SAY NO
Tuesday, October 9, 2012
Coping With Uncertainty
Sunday, December 11, 2011
Happy Holidays: Reflections, December 2011
For several years I have specialized in helping women cope with the various problems that may arise in connection with pregnancy, birth, or the lack of either.
I’ve learned a lot about the latest medical wisdom regarding baby care (I last gave birth in 1983). Instead of colic, babies now have GERD; instead of putting them to sleep on their tummies, they are safest on their backs; swaddling is recommended and loose blankets over sleeping babies are ill advised.
The new technologies of IVF and IUF are amazing, as are the brave women who choose to go down that road in order to have a child. I’ve learned about the NICU at Stony Brook Hospital and the miraculous medical advances that save the lives of the tiniest infants.
I’ve seen the many faces of grief, and the triumph of resilience. All in all, I feel privileged to have the opportunity to share this exciting time of life with such a broad range of people.
Wishing you all a happy healthy holiday season and the very best in 2012
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
Treatment of Depression during pregnancy-Dont wait!
This past Fall (2009), the American Psychiatric Association and The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists joined forces to review the existing data regarding treatment of depression in pregnant women and make recommendations. Because there can be consequences to taking medication and also to untreated depression, the report emphasized the need for decisions to be made on a case-by-case basis. It's no wonder doctors and their patients may feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. However, one finding was clear, that talk therapy should be the first-line treatment for mild to moderate depression in pregnant women.
So don't let mild symptoms reach crisis proportions. Talking with a competent mental health professional can shed new light on dark issues, which is why I urge women and the doctors who treat them to choose action over non-action. It's always a better choice.
Monday, October 26, 2009
The Joys of Being a Hands on Dad
What I call a “hands on dad” is one who changes diapers, bathes, comforts and generally tends to the needs of their baby at least some of the time. Traditionally moms do these tasks more often then dads and in many cases she’s home while dad is out working. But most dad’s are home some of the time and whenever they are they owe it to their wives, their babies and most especially to themselves to participate in this care taking.
Infants are basically a bundle of need; they need to be fed, bathed, dressed, soothed, etc. It’s through these tasks that we bond with them. So while it may seem only natural for mom to be tending to these needs, even when dad is at hand and in fact your baby may protest the change, there are at least three reasons to persist.
One reason is simply that by not doing these things you are missing out on the beautiful experience of creating a strong bond with your child. Secondly, by sharing this part of parenting you maintain and strengthen the bond with your wife. The third reason is that at some point mom may be unavailable. Unforeseen events can and do occur.
So my strong advice to men is to roll up your sleeves, put aside old -fashioned notions and be a part of this very magical, if fleeting, phase of parenting.